A grudge is like a hand grenade. You shouldn't hold on to it for to long. You could hang on to either for as long as you like, but the consequences are equally as deadly.I tend to hold on too long.
Forgiveness does not come natural. It is a matter of conditioning. If someone has wronged to us, we hold it against him or her because of the negative experience we now have.
One such occasion has happened to me recently. As many of you may already know, my ex-girlfriend and I broke up in January. She is getting married in August.
The speed of her flight to another man shattered my self-esteem. I often blame her for things like low confidence, bad dating experiences, inclement weather or anything else that I can peg her to.
I cannot let go because of what she did, but I have to.
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you are amazing Joey, I'm sorry this shattered your self esteem but as I see it she does/did not deserve you.
ReplyDeleteI am so sorry to hear that. You know....a book that has really helped me through my grudge holding was Bonds That Make Us Free.
ReplyDeleteI am sorry to hear that you have low self esteem. I think you are quite amazing. Extremely talented and a man with a lot to offer the world.
Good luck to you.